I am thirty-nine years one-time today.
I am having a genuine, certifiable, diagnosis-able, mid-life crisis. This feels almost correct equally I've hitting all of my life transitions unseasonably early. But anyway, inwards a sporadic way, I wish to write almost what this all feels similar inwards the moment.
My thoughts are oft consumed almost the purpose of life. And most days I come upwardly to the determination that I acquire to select the purpose of my life, which may appear obvious but it's complicated given my background.
I've taken to reading all I tin flame almost Native American practices. Currently we're reading a mass (Steams to the River, River to the Sea) to the kids almost Sacajawea together with her trip alongside Lewis together with Clark to the pacific sea (or the Lake that Stinks). Along the way we're learning a lot almost racism, sexism, human trafficking, together with the practices of the First Nation people. These are subjects I wish my kids to understand. I conduct maintain this curiosity almost the people who lived inwards Beringia almost 20,000 years ago--the survivors of the H2O ice historic menses together with ancestors of the Native American people. Why? Because I am interested inwards studying human survival. Not only physical, but spiritual survival.
And for that reason, I think almost tardigrades alongside almost the same energy. And extremophiles. Is this getting weird? I know. My midlife crisis manifests itself inwards obsessions alongside microorganisms instead of sports cars together with infidelity.
When Christopher together with I popular inwards the hot tub at nighttime I await upwardly at the stars together with oft experience upset almost how niggling I know almost this experience I am having. I think almost how I volition probable popular off knowing together with then niggling almost the Blue Planet together with the stars together with sand together with the moon. I wish to live on aware of the physicality of this house I am living inwards but my hear grasps scientific discipline piece of cake together with I acquire variety out of anal almost information.
I conduct maintain a existent fright of death. I've ever felt my comfort alongside passing was a spiritual gift. I've ever been confident almost it. But it's similar I've come upwardly to an awakening together with instantly I search for something inwards decease that resonates. I remind myself all the fourth dimension that no 1 knows alongside surety what happens when nosotros popular off because nosotros haven't died. Some conduct maintain had near-death experiences, but the truth is: if you're walking unopen to today it agency you're non dead. See how that works?
This belike sounds similar such a distant belief organization from the 1 I conduct maintain written almost all these years on my blog. It is different. I didn't enquire for a sweeping repeal of all I believed in, it only happened to me. It's similar my projected life together with my belief organization had this coming all along. We unzipped similar a coat jacket together with instantly there's a gulf betwixt us. I tin flame reckon it on the other side, but it seems similar a dream I had once, which I conduct maintain fond feelings for, but don't wish to move back.
Some telephone telephone this a crisis. It feels similar that. Some telephone telephone it a transition. It feels similar that too. Some telephone telephone this an awakening. I think that's right.
Here's the hardest utilization for me, together with something I conduct maintain exclusively understood since yesterday piece coming together alongside my dietitian. This crisis has also been a regain of how deeply flawed I am. I used to walk unopen to alongside a sense of self-importance--like I was a gift to humanity. And y'all know, we're all gifts to humanity, but I've lost the stance that I was the most important gift, or one of the most important. Life was a lot easier when I felt that way, to live on honest. It hurts to reckon how much this belief buoyed me upwardly together with losing it has Pb to cracking torso hatred. Like, if I were to modify my torso I could acquire dorsum to beingness an of import person.
I acquire that this is non my fault. And it's quite common. We shed layers of consciousness all the time--if we're doing human right. But when y'all are raised past times a social club that constantly teaches y'all that all of your problems stalk from your imperfect torso together with that past times fixing your torso y'all create your problems y'all move a thirty-nine year-old who experiences some serious disconnect upon discovering how untrue that whole stance is. And fifty-fifty though my reaction to stress, discomfort together with hurting is to halt eating all together (I am an emotional under-eater, non an over-eater) zip changes regardless of nutrient intake. And dieting exclusively makes us heavier--emotionally together with physically.
So I am shedding the pounds of patriarchy instead of pounds of fat. And it's hard. But it's good.
Last of all: the joy of my life nonetheless remains discovery. It's afternoons inwards the desert or mountains alongside my children together with my proficient husband. It's getting lost inwards museums or thoughts, highways, historical markers, geography, maps, conversations, together with inwards the stars at nighttime inwards the hot tub. It's discovering novel ways to love. New ways to live on loved. It's the regain of fine art together with friends. The exploration of relationships together with families. It's discovering boundaries (BOUNDARIES I LOVE YOU SO MUCH).
And when I do cry upwardly to select it, the purpose of life is discovery.
Regardless how broad the chasm of my belief, it's ever been almost that.
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